In my opinion, it’s like everything – it depends on your perspective. With the transition into fall, I seem to be having conversations everywhere about clothes and style. There are the rules, thoughts about what’s in, worries about what’s out, statement pieces, basics, mom jeans, skinnies, flares, age appropriate or not…….it can all be like a giant sucker of all the fun.
What about self-expression?
What about feeling pretty?
What about wanting to look tough or comfy?
With online shopping we can all search through hundreds of images from dozens of different stores and they’ll all tell you what you should be wearing NOW. Well, what if you don’t wanna or what if all the trends they are pushing right now feel ridiculous to you?!
I’ll focus on the moms out there because in my opinion having children come into your life can cause a pretty big change in style…..and about 1,000 other things.
Here’s what I know, it is important to define your style, below are a couple tips:
- If anyone out there is really starting from square one this is a pretty timeless list for basics that work in every kind of closet for every age.
- It helps to know the rules if only so you can choose to break them. You need patience here because I’m not talking about White after Labor Day kind of rules (btw white jeans are fine all year round). I have a loose/tight rule, if my bottoms are tight, my top is looser or vice versa. I also have a quality over quantity rule, a closet stuffed with clothes doesn’t necessarily give you more options. I have a three ways rule – my clothes work hard, they have to be versatile.
- It helps to look at clothes that fit your style on “real” people. This could be a movie character, a celebrity, your aunt, you get the point. Buffy the Vampire Slayer has been one of my style inspiration peeps for years (I’m not saying how many) – I find her feminine/tough/functional mix highly practical for moi.
- It helps to take pictures of yourself in the clothes you like best and the ones you receive compliments when wearing, these will be the building blocks from which change can happen.
- Don’t forget the fun – wear non-matching socks under your boots if that helps support your wackiness, wear something that makes you feel good even if it’s unexpected. Like Bea working barefoot in her red strapless dress.
Here is a blog that has fun with mom style, the authors are also of pretty different style aesthetics, so there’s a bit of range:
These ladies are having fun with clothes and it’s really nice to see a few fall trends on someone who is NOT 6 feet tall, 95 lbs and 14 years old – ya feel me?
Happy fall, hope you are having fun!
I like clothes, I like playing with clothes, the proportions, fabrics, colors. I do not however like shopping. When I figured this out it was shocking! I used to find the mall one of the most peaceful places on earth, now I feel a little dizzy and ill when I’m there. To remedy this situation, I’ve become a major shopper of my own closet. When inspiration strikes and I feel the creative juices flowing, I set aside some time go back through my clothes try things on and take pictures. To some this might sound like an exercise in vanity, superficiality and silliness. For the others, keep reading.
Why take a picture, you might wonder? It’s like writing down a good idea, sometimes we are given a gift to see things in a slightly different way, all of the sudden a tired outfit gets new life with a belt or a new proportion. The pictures are especially helpful when I’m plagued by hormones and all of the sudden I can’t find one thing to put on my body. Or I get the “new urge”. It happens, an event comes up and I think, “Oh, I need something new for that” – I’ve now documented my clothes so thoroughly that be it a funeral, a hot date, horseback riding, a walking trip around Paris – I have an outfit for that!
A couple tips:
1. Don’t include your head in the pictures, it’s a distraction, you might hate your hair in the picture and then the helpful outfit documentation is worthless.
2. Don’t spend more than an hour trying on and documenting your ideas
3. Hang up as you go, a mountain of clothes isn’t a great reward for your efforts
4. Include shoes, that dress you never wear might due to the fact you don’t have footwear that works with it, so who cares if it looks great with a belt
5. Ask a friend for help, either in finding ideas in your closet or editing your pictures. That skirt might be perfect just a couple inches shorter.
6. Think about alterations with a tailor, I’ve turned dresses into shirts and dresses into skirts.
7. The internet is a great source of inspiration, I screen capture (or you can “pin”) photos I love and see if I can recreate the idea with my own things. I keep two folders on my computer: “style” and “me in clothes”
I have a wedding coming up so I flipped through my formal wear here’s the winner: