Anyone name that tune? I know my sister is flailing her hand in the air, “South Pacific, South Pacific”. Yup, our mom is a major lover of the musical genre.
Now to my point, we’ve all heard the saying if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. However, that doesn’t mean these nasty thoughts just vanish; on the contrary these little meanies can hit a repeat loop to pollute you over and over, this is especially true when it comes to what I think about myself.
Since I’ve learned I do better with adding something positive rather than taking away the negative, I’m working on becoming my new best friend. I’m using happy talk, many might call them affirmations or mantras but I’m a simple person, happy talk suits my needs. This can be anything from a trick Diane Von Furstentberg uses – winking at herself in the mirror or writing “Hiya Gorgeous” on my bathroom tile (see above).
What do any of us have to loose in giving ourselves a few more high fives during the day?! If I could replace the amount of times I’ve listed all my “weaknesses”, with listing all of my strengths – I’m guessing I’d be more familiar with all these likable attributes I possess.
It has to be said, this made me feel silly at first, when I told myself “I love you” out loud the first time, I rolled my eyes and giggled. But the change is undeniable, I’ve been easier on myself and therefore everyone around me since I began this little experiment.
Cause here’s the thing, I’m seeing my daughter start to loose a bit of her inherent confidence that tells her how amazing she is, the part of her that feels so comfortable in her own skin that there are NO strengths and weaknesses, it’s just HER – incredible her. If this parenting gig has taught me anything it’s you gotta walk the talk, so that’s why I’ll be working my happy talkie talkie happy talk.