Anyone name that tune? I know my sister is flailing her hand in the air, “South Pacific, South Pacific”. Yup, our mom is a major lover of the musical genre.
Now to my point, we’ve all heard the saying if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. However, that doesn’t mean these nasty thoughts just vanish; on the contrary these little meanies can hit a repeat loop to pollute you over and over, this is especially true when it comes to what I think about myself.
Since I’ve learned I do better with adding something positive rather than taking away the negative, I’m working on becoming my new best friend. I’m using happy talk, many might call them affirmations or mantras but I’m a simple person, happy talk suits my needs. This can be anything from a trick Diane Von Furstentberg uses – winking at herself in the mirror or writing “Hiya Gorgeous” on my bathroom tile (see above).
What do any of us have to loose in giving ourselves a few more high fives during the day?! If I could replace the amount of times I’ve listed all my “weaknesses”, with listing all of my strengths – I’m guessing I’d be more familiar with all these likable attributes I possess.
It has to be said, this made me feel silly at first, when I told myself “I love you” out loud the first time, I rolled my eyes and giggled. But the change is undeniable, I’ve been easier on myself and therefore everyone around me since I began this little experiment.
Cause here’s the thing, I’m seeing my daughter start to loose a bit of her inherent confidence that tells her how amazing she is, the part of her that feels so comfortable in her own skin that there are NO strengths and weaknesses, it’s just HER – incredible her. If this parenting gig has taught me anything it’s you gotta walk the talk, so that’s why I’ll be working my happy talkie talkie happy talk.
Hint: Diane Von Furstenberg is one of them!
During relatively quiet afternoons, while my kids are doing their homework, I sit with them, on hand for questions and
bribes encouragement, with my laptop and check through “my blog list”. This week’s read through produced quite a gem, here’s my treasure hunt OR skip to the bottom link below the pic for the prize:
I started at Zero Waste Home – Bea where are you? Moved on to You Are the River, not really into house stuff right now though. So I visited Garance Dore for a smile and a laugh and met Amanda. Inspired my some of the spring shows I saw on Garance but reminding myself it’s FALL that’s coming I checked-out Net-a-Porter where I saw Amanda again. My interest peeked, I googled “Amanda de Cadenet The Conversation” and THAT is when I met my new besties.
When I was a brand new mom with a brand new baby, I would have LOVED to look at something like this when I should have been “napping” like the baby.
*Episode 4 is the only one I’ve been able to see all the way through, but I’m hopeful for the other episodes. This is more than just girl talk it’s girl SUPPORT and who doesn’t need more of that! Feel free to skip over Miley Cyrus – I did.